Is it a “good” mental habit?
For almost 15 years, I singlehandedly tried to dispel every #stereotypes created about #blackwomen that I’d ever heard – lazy, uninformed, uneducated, emotionally charged, and let’s not forget aggressive.
I dare come off as angry. So I was Meek. Quiet. Humble. Cooperative. Nonconfrontational. And an expert in my field.
Yet, I CompartMENTALized. I rationalized. I was an Imposter who practiced #CodeSwitching daily. I was afraid to come off as aggressive at all…not even in my damn walk. Walk quietly damnit!
No one told me to do this. It left me exhausted. Burned out. It wasn’t until I had a 1-on-1 with an executive coach as part of a leadership development program, that I realized I couldn’t change stereotypes and mindsets. Who did I think I was? And the problem wasn’t mine to solve. ❤️🙏🏽
Get the book! Part three of my memoir is all about my experiences at the most secretive agency in the federal government — the national security agency (NSA). At times I felt like a fly in a bowl of milk and other times I felt like the leader of the fucking pack! 
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